French kissing

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Ahh, the French Kiss...The timeless symbol of romantic passion that we all have seen two people engaging in, one way or another. We see it in movies, hear about it from friends, see it happening at parties, and read about it in books and magazines. Chances are, if you haven't experienced it, you want to. It is an exciting and intimate moment between two people who are attracted enough to each other to kiss. French kissing can come quite naturally to some of us, and can intimidate the rest.

If you are interested in French kissing, I also highly recommend the Intructables on the site How to Kiss and How to Make Out. Both are very informative and helpful to those curious about kissing and hit all the topics that should be addressed. Not sure how to kiss? Well, French kissing shares many of the same principles as normal kissing and making out as far as technique, but if you are interested in gaging body language or how to work up to a French kiss, take a look around.

In this Instructable, I aim to focus on the French Kiss alone. The French kiss is not a science, but rather an art that is open to interpretation for all who are interested. There is a certain amount of skill involved, but it is mostly instinct that will come naturally with time. By creating this Instructable, I hope to help you be a confident, compassionate, French kisser and alleviate your nervousness about kissing.

Step 1The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

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There are some standards of things that are fairly constant across the board that I will go in to depth about. The definition of a French kiss, as defined by wikipedia, is "a passionate romantic or sexual kiss in which one participant's tongue touches the other's tongue (or lips) and usually enters his/her mouth." Well, I think we all knew that much, so I hope to be able to teach how to French kiss well. We have all heard horror stories about "bad kissers" and obviously do not want to be labeled as such. Read on to find some "Do's" and "Don'ts" of French kissing.

Step 2Preparation - Have Fresh Breath

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Having bad breath is a major turn off for many partners out there. Having good breath is something you should want to have around people in general. It is especially important for a French kiss as you will be exchanging saliva with your partner. Try to not to eat smelly things before a kiss such as garlic or onions. Gum and mints help, but can only do so much. In the event of having smelly food, or in the event of having food that leaves a residue in your mouth, it is best to brush your teeth if you can. If you can't bush your teeth, try drinking lots of water to clean out your mouth. Then try mints/ gum.

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This is not necessary for all partners, but until you know your partner's kissing preferences, it is a good thing to take into consideration as most people enjoy the clean palate so that they can focus on the kiss, itself.

Step 3Have Soft, moist lips

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Chapstick is something that guys and gals alike can carry on them and use often. Soft lips are enticing where as dry lips are quite the opposite. Would you want to kiss someone with cracked, chapped lips or soft, smooth lips? I though so. :P

This is something very easy to do! Just carry around a tube with you and apply as need. Voila! Instant kissable lips. Also, keep in mind that most lipsticks can be very sticky and unpleasant to transfer via kiss. They look pretty, yes, but be sure if you want to use lipstick or gloss, that it will not hinder the kiss. Sometimes flavored lip gloss can be fun. ;)

Step 4Find Someone to Kiss

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Hopefully you have someone in mind before this point, but if it is a spur of the moment urge, find yourself someone you would like to kiss. Make sure they want to be kissed as well, otherwise, the kiss may very well end unpleasantly. You can generally tell if someone wants to be kissed by their body language. If they are willing to be very close to you and touch you, if they have steady eye contact, and if they have been flirting, it is a good bet that they want to be kissed.

Be confident

I know that this may be a little tricky at this point, but it's very important. By the time you're done here, confidence should not be an issue. Confidence is important because it shows your partner that you want to kiss them and have no doubt. It helps them relax, too.

Step 5Start off Slowly

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Lean in closely to your partner and look into their eyes. If they want to be kissed, kiss them. Tilt your head slightly to the side so that your noses do not bump. Keep eye contact with them until your lips touch, at which point you should close your eyes. It is generally considered rude to kiss with your eyes open and can ruin the intimacy of the moment.

Let your lips softly touch and pull away from each other in a kiss. Pause for a moment and gage how the other person is enjoying this kiss. You can pull away slightly to look into their eyes. If they liked your kiss, try another one on them. Maybe let this one last a moment longer or kiss them a couple times. Make sure your kisses are soft. 

 

Step 6 How to know when to transition you kiss to a French kiss

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There isn't going to be a moment at which you will want to stop and ask for permission, "Hey, mind if we swap saliva?" So, you will need to test the waters to see if your partner wants to be kissed. When you have decided you want to French kiss, start kissing your partner with a slight open mouth, but keep your tongue inside. This lets your partner know that your mouth is open and that you are up for French kissing. Continue kissing with an open mouth and then, very slightly, touch your partner's lips with your tongue. If they respond negatively, stop. If they don't respond, then be patient. They might not be ready yet. If your partner mirrors your actions by opening their mouth, then they are ready to move on.

 

Step 7 An open mouth kiss

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By now, you and your partner are probably both gingerly touching each other with your tongues. If you are both comfortable, feel free to explore each other's mouths with your tongues. Keep in mind that it's always better to do a little bit at a time to get a feel for it. Remember to occasionally pull your tongue into your own mouth so you do not bombard your partner. Small, exploring French kisses are what you want for the moment.

Swallow your saliva. French kisses are bound to get a little messy, but control it as much as you can by swallowing your saliva. If you can't do this while kissing, do it when you are giving your partner a short break from the French kiss. This should be a short, momentary break and you should continue to be engaged with your hands.

Continue exploring each other's mouths. Keep a soft tongue For most people, it is a major turn off to feel a ridged tongue in their mouth. It isn't welcoming or sensual in any way. Remember that your tongue is one of the most sensitive parts on your body and should be kissed as such. Think of licking ice cream from a soft-serve cone. You don't want a lot of pressure. Just enough to lick a small layer of ice cream off. That is the same thing to think about when kissing.

Step 8 Remember your hands

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When kissing, it is very important to remember your hands in relation to your partner's body. When you begin kissing, keep your hands gently touching your partner. Try gingerly stroking their cheek or running your fingers through their hair.

As the kiss progresses, so may your hands. Try running your hand down their back while one hand plays with their hair. Or just embrace them gently. You will find what you are most comfortable with. The important thing is to remember not to let your arms just hang there! Let your hands mirror what your mouth is up to.

Step 9Remember your partner!

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Remember that not everybody likes to be kissed the same way and be mindful of that. Be open to trying new things for your partner and be willing to kiss them differently if that is what they like. You want this experience to be optimum for both parties. :)

Make sure to be a good partner. The best kissers are those who figure out how their partner likes to be kissed. I have given the best guidelines that follow how most people like to be kissed, but remember to be considerate if your partner wants to try something different.

If your partner is not happy, neither will you be eventually because they will not want to kiss you anymore! Although it may seem awkward, talk to your partner at a later time and ask them how they like to be kissed the best and take it into consideration.

Step 10Practice makes perfect!

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Don't have anyone to try this with quite yet? No problem, you can still practice. Remember how we talked about the soft-serve ice cream cone? Try one out with kissing in mind. Remember how your tongue feels in that way.

Don't be embarrassed to practice on yourself! Well, you don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to, but practicing on yourself is a great way to start. Trying kissing your hand and follow the technique.

Everybody will develop their own "art" to French kissing, so just give it time! The more you do it, the better you'll get! Thankfully, it's fun to practice!

Now go out there and grab yourself somebody to kiss! Have fun and be safe!

This was my first Instructable and if you enjoyed it, let me know! I would love to get some feed back. :)

Kissing Advice

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This is an instructable on how to kiss. Kissing can be a hard thing to do until you get comfortable doing it, and while nothing can fully prepare you for a kiss, this how-to will explain some of the basics of kissing a partner and explore some simple kissing do's and don't's.

Note: I am by no means a kissing expert. The information in this instructable is based upon experience and some simple research on the subject.

Let's get started with just a simple kiss.

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Step 1Pre Kiss

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The lead up to the kiss can actually be the most difficult part of kissing. Figuring out whether your partner is ready to kiss you or not can be a challenge of its own.

If you see one or a combination of these indicators, there is a good chance that your partner is thinking about kissing you.

• eyes become soft and heavy
• eye contact is made and sustained
• head turns slightly
• lips are licked or bitten
• your partner makes physical contact with you beyond what seems appropriate for normal conversation (e.g. he or she brushes your hand, touches you on the shoulder or leg, or fidgets with an accessory)
• easy conversation comes to a stop, but eye contact is not broken
• your partner smiles in conjunction with any of the above behaviors

To give your partner the cue that you wish to kiss him or her, you can try one or a combination of these things.

• soften your gaze by relaxing the muscles around your eyes, somewhat like smiling but without engaging your mouth
• smile often, though
• make eye contact and allow it to linger for a few moments longer than you normally would
• find ways to subtly (but respectfully) touch your partner

If you think you are picking up some of these signs, but are still unsure if the person wants to be kissed then there is nothing wrong with just simply asking your partner if a kiss would be all right. Granted it breaks the mood a bit, and sensing the magic is always nicer than asking if it's there, but better to be sure your partner is on board for the kiss otherwise you might be heading for an embarrassing situation.

If you've assessed the situation, and it seems probable that a kiss is imminent, the next things to think about are timing and approach. The key to nailing the pre kiss is matching your partner's speed and intensity. The kiss is the first opportunity to physically connect with your partner, and so you want to meet him or her halfway.

Here are some steps you could follow as you go in for the kiss. Keep in mind that the kiss you share with someone is as unique as your relationship with that person, so follow your instincts and use the following as a rough guideline.

1. Establish a physical connection by placing your hands on your partner's body. Placement depends on the dynamic between you, you can softly touch the face, the back of the neck or the shoulders. Be gentle with your touch if this is the first contact you are making. Stay away from "high risk" zones on your partners body, as you just want to indicate that you are interested in kissing them, not give them a full body search.

2. Establish and maintain eye contact from this point on. The eyes are often a clear indicator if someone wants to be kissed, or is thinking about kissing you. Try to look at your partner with a deep, yet soft gaze. Use your eyes to send them a message that shows how you feel for your partner, e.g., "I care for you, I am on fire when I look at you, I want to kiss you."

3. As you lean in, you may want to tilt your body and head to accommodate your partner's positioning. One partner will have to make room for the other, or both partners can just slightly tilt heads in opposite directions. Basically you are just trying to avoid a nose collision as you get closer, so just pick a side to turn to and don't give it too much thought.

4. Gauge how quickly your partner is leaning in and try to meet at the halfway point between you, so neither person is overextended. Over/under extension can make one person feel like they are not getting met and are either too aggressive, or not engaged enough.

If you have come this far with your partner chances are you are going to kiss, or you have misread the entire situation and they are just leaning in to look at something stuck in your teeth.
If the first is true, then read on because it's time to pucker up and get on with THE KISS.

Kissing Advice

Learn the true art of kissing for success, including french kissing techniques, tips and advice for the ultimate kiss

What is romance without a kiss?

When wishing for romance, your kisses had better be good to make a favorable impression. It may not be fair, but some will judge you on your first kiss as to whether or not they will want to see you again. In other words, there needs to be good chemistry when kissing.

A good kiss delivers a powerful impact! If you're a great kisser, you're going to turn your date on and you will have a definite edge.

What distinguishes a good kisser from the kisser we all want to forget? The key is to be soft and gentle and follow their lead. Here are some good romantic kissing tips to enhance your love life:

Step One

Be careful not to startle - watch and wait for the signal to proceed

Avoid the 'ambush' kiss (although these can be exciting as your relationship progresses.)

Look deeply into your partner's eyes. This will send the message that you like them and want to be closer to them.

Look for their signals as well. Look for a warm, kind smile (even a slight smile is good; it doesn't have to be BIG.)

Pay attention to the look on your loved one's face. This will indicate where they want to go with this kiss.

Step Two

Look for good balance. As you move closer to that magical kiss, you don't want to be leaning too forward awkwardly to get there.

As you move closer you are sending signals. You want your body to be in a comfortable position during the kiss, so you can enjoy every moment of it.

Go for a light touch just before the kiss. While a hand lightly on the face is a definite signal of intimacy, holding hands combined with eye contact and a warm look can indicate the beginning of a great kiss to come.

Make sure you are aligned correctly at this point. This means not only getting your lips on track with theirs, but getting the head tilted correctly as well.

Tilt your head slightly to one side first. Your partner will likely react and tilt the other way. This is a mutual sign that the kiss will be very welcomed.

Step Three

Relax your lips, close your eyes.

Move in slowly. During step number two you made sure the two of you were aligned correctly, now you can close your eyes as you're just about to make contact.

Relax your lips, not tightly pressed together. Give your partner the pleasant experience of feeling your lips softly against theirs.

Your lips should be recently moistened, but not wet.

Step Four

Relax your lips, tilt your head and breathe evenly.

Moving in, you can part your lips slightly just before contact. Keep your lips relaxed, your tongue in your mouth.

Keep your head tilted so both of you can still breathe comfortably on contact and as the perfect kiss is held...

SAVOR every moment ... be slow, gentle, easy.

Step Five

Keep it sweet, not too long and not too wet.

Don't pull away too quickly or make any quick movements. Savor. Savor. Savor. Feel the power and romance of the kiss.

Enjoy the moment!

Step Six

Take your time and don't rush. Make eye contact, nonverbal and verbal messages.

To end, pull away slowly and make eye contact again. Show a satisfied, warm smile to reinforce how you feel.

Enjoy the closeness, relax, and finish the kiss with a warm embrace.

A few, thoughtful words, such as, "That was nice," can be whispered. Try to reinforce how you felt about your kiss with positive words. Your partner will appreciate this and this can break the ice a little.

Now that you have mastered the romance of a kiss....you are well on your way to learn even more about how to enhance your romance life!

You Know You Are in Love

You miss some one a lot

You miss him / her when you are in family picnics, parties, family occasion etc., you feel vacant and restless in absence of him / her. You just want to be in front of him / her. When you are alone you start to think about him / her. When he / she is not along with, you desire to make a call.

You think about someone before go to sleep

When you go to sleep, you begin to think about him / her. You make future plan along with him / her and you feel relax and pleasure from your inner heart. Your sleep will not come without thinking him / her.

You hesitate to call someone but you love to

You scare a little that how he / she and his / her family will react when you call but you love to talk with him / her. You never want to end up the conversation between. You create some cause to call him / her.

Your heart beat grows up before talking

When you are trying to call (Dialing number, ringing telephone) or he / she calls you your heart beat grows up and you feel excitement. You wouldn’t be relaxed until he / she talks (says hello). You will forget everything while you are talking.

Kind of glow flashes out on your eyes and face

You are totally pleased after talk with him / her. You feel like winning a war after talking and your days go perfectly or you can sleep well and tight after. You feel totally relaxed and happy after you end up the call and a kind of glow and happiness will seem on your eyes and face.

You want to be better looking and dashing
When you are going to meet him / her you take bath again, wear matching dress, use more perfumes and make up. You look at mirror again and again. You wish to be impressed him / her through your looks.

You talk mostly about someone with your friends and family

When you are with your family or friend you mostly talk about him / her. You want to show how much he / she is good and takes care for you. You only talk about his / her positive attitudes, you never indicate any negative attitudes if he / she has. You will try to make space and create good vision of him / her between your families.

You unknowingly look after someone

When you both are together your eyes continuously contact to him / her but when your eyes contact with each other you quickly put away. You feel him / her each and every organs beautiful.

Someone Loves You

Someone Loves You

You meet lots of personal in your daily life and become friends. They would be your class mate, co-worker, colleague, neighbor, childhood pal etc. Among them some would be just hi / hello friend, best friend and someone special too. Usually between ladies and gents friend it may happens. Even you don’t think like something special between you both but your partner might be thinking like that, without your knowledge he / she might loves you but couldn’t express. It could create a problem in future. It is ok if you don’t have any objection but if you do or you love someone else then it may hamper you both’ further life. So better you prevent it than care in future. If you notice it earlier, you can handle it by some other way. Here follows some clues to find out if someone loves you. Someone gives you lots of priority: He / she treats you better than him / herself and his / her family. He / she tries to show that how much are you important for him / her. He / she never refuse whatever you say. Someone cares you a lot: If you are hungry or thirsty, He / she immediately gets food or water for you and always gets what you wish. He / she tries to solve your every problems.He / she tries to hide your mistakes and be responsible himself / herself for it. He / she never let you go alone and never let you more walk and work Your decision would be a final decision: He / she asks you to decide everything and he / she waits for your opinion before select. He / she does not argue with you regarding your decision. He / she goes with your selection even he / she doesn't like it. Someone calls you regularly: He / she calls you twice or thrice a day even he / she has gone out of city or out of country. If he / she realize that he / she is calling a lot then also he / she will not stop calling but he / she will builds some little cause. (For eg. "Turn on the television, now it's showing a comedy serial", "Is there any rainfall around your area?" etc.) Someone tries to develop relation with your family and close friends: He / she respects your family as well as your friends and always send regards to them while he / she calls you. He / she tries to create good vision about him/ herself among your family. He / she tries to communicate with your family members basically whom you are close with. He / she shows how much he / she cares for you. Someone doesn’t let you be closed with other friends: He / she become angry or upset if you are talking with another friend. He / she wants to be given more priority to him / her than other. He / she aware you from the close friend with opposite sex. Always asks a question that who is your best or close friend: He / she wants to know that who is your best and close friend. He / she also wants to know whom you want more and who loves and care you a lot. He / she always asks you about their value and status on your life. Someone tries to gift you without any occasion: He / she never forget to get something to you if he / she go for shopping or go outside valley. Basically he / she gifts you that you don’t have but you need. He / she gifts you too expensive like ornaments, wrist watch and wearing. Someone notice your minor activities too: He / she keeps on mind your activities like your happiness, tiredness, sadness, excitement etc. even a minor behavior like body language, winking, handwriting, walking too. He / she notices what type of music, color, movie, foods do you like. He / she absorbs himself / herself as per your wish as his / her dressing, talking, hairstyle etc. Someone wants to talk you in alone either on phone or face to face: He / she wants to talk with you alone. If someone else interrupt between you both, he / she gets angry. He / she doesn’t cares about other person if you are in front of him / her and he / she talks only few with other. He / she mostly calls you on night after other family members sleep and requests you to go far from other while talking. He / she doesn’t talks long if your family members are with you. He / she wants to seat close to you and tries to touch you.